PARENTING WITH DIGNITY® by Mac Bledsoe

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Mac Bledsoe's Presentation and Parenting With Dignity®

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I don't know how to put into words the way  you have impacted my life. You are a gift! You have given me something that will help me for the rest of my life. You have given me an opportunity to help kids... How do I thank you for that?  (T.L.)


About our organization

Parenting With Dignity® is a resource where parents learn new effective parenting skills and provides a source of information for parents, giving them the tools necessary to create an encouraging, and loving home for their children.

We are a non-profit, 501(c)(3) educational organization; governed by a board of directors comprised of parents, educators and business professionals. It was started by a grant from Drew Bledsoe, quarterback for the NFL's Dallas Cowboys.

The "Parenting With Dignity" curriculum was developed by Mac and Barbara Bledsoe based on their 20+ years of experience as educators, counselors, coaches, and parents. We have partnered with other youth advocacy groups to bring its message to a broad audience of parents and educators. Key partnerships include: YMCA, Pop Warner Football, Children's Miracle Network, and the Parent-Teacher Associations in many states.

Visit our FAQ page to learn more about Parenting With Dignity™.

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Mac & Barbara

About Mac and BarbaraMac and Barbara Bledsoe

Mac and Barbara Bledsoe have been talking with parents for more than 20 years about how to help instill positive behavior and good decision-making skills in their children.

Whether a PTA convention, an athletic banquet, a high school graduation, a corporate workshop, a national conference, a teacher workshop, or a community meeting - Mac and Barbara brings their common sense, humorous, highly motivational messages to audiences.

You will laugh; you will cry. Mac and Barbara will touch your head and your heart as they guide you through important messages about working and growing up with children.

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Core Concepts
Five Rules For Parents

The video parenting course is based upon one central idea:

"WHETHER YOU APPROVE OR NOT, YOUR CHILDREN
WILL MAKE ALL OF THE BIG DECISIONS IN THEIR
LIVES; SO, OUR ONLY HOPE IS TO TEACH THEM
TO MAKE GOOD DECISIONS."

  1. End any criticism with a positive statement of expected behavior. The expected behavior must be stated in very specific, behavioral terms kids can understand. Remember, just because you said something, does not mean children heard it, understood it, and can translate what you said into productive action. Also, before you can communicate to children precisely what it is you want them to do…. you must decide exactly what you do want. Once you have in mind a very specific idea of exactly what it is you want children to do, many times your strategy to bring about that behavior will become very obvious. Always keep in mind that it helps if you will include a "sales pitch" explaining why your desired behavior will bring about positive and rewarding outcomes for the kid.
     
  2. Criticize the performance and not the person. Criticism is often necessary in working with the behavior of children, but it must remain just that… a criticism of just the behavior. As a matter of fact, most of the time it is possible to give the person a compliment while the behavior is being corrected. This sounds easy, but it takes great care and planning to do it.
     
  3. Do not assume they have heard it simply because you have said it…REPEAT IT! Repetition is fundamental to all learning. It is rare that we ever learn anything on a first exposure, and children are no different. KIDS ARE PEOPLE TOO. So, remember when you set out to teach them something you, most likely, will have to repeat it a couple of times. KEEP THE ANGER OUT! Also, remember that if you have repeated something a number of times and the kids are still not doing it, then you need to find another way to say it. (Remember when you repeat it, that there are many ways to "say" something.)
     
  4. It does not matter what you say; it is what they say to themselves that counts. Self - motivation is the only kind of motivation. No matter how much you would like to motivate and control children, the controlling force in their lives will be what they tell themselves. If I were speaking to you, it would not matter what I said if you were repeating over and over in your head "Boy, he doesn't know what the heck he is talking about." The techniques we use with children must always be aimed at guiding them to phrase positive statements about themselves. One of the most effective ways to do this is to teach them the fundamentals of values clarification and goal setting.
     
  5. Send a constant and continual message of LOVE. We do not know how it is that humans learn language. But we do know that the particular language all humans speak is simply the language they are exposed to... and that is the key, because love is a language! If we wish to have children speak the language of love, then we must make sure we expose them to it on a continuous basis. There are two important corollaries to sending a message of love to our kids:
     
    • Love is not just something you say; it is also something you do. (You can fake like you care, but you can't fake being there. To send a message of love to your children you must show up. Love is not a spectator sport.)
       
    • The time they most need to hear it, is the time you feel least able to say it. When you are at the point of putting your children up for adoption, that is probably the time when their heart is most open to receive your message.

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Expectations
What you can expect to receive from your investment in the "Parenting with Dignity" Program.
  • How to obtain appropriate behavior from children
    • Kids with a strong sense of pride in their appropriate behavior
    • Happy, self-directed youth
    • Children with a very strong sense of their value structure
    • Children with solid decision making skills based upon well developed values
    • Children with a strong sense of accountability for their actions
    • Children confirmed in their self worth due to the unconditional love of their parents
  • Safer schools filled with happier children
  • Schools with decreased needs for disciplinary action because the students come to school with self-discipline instilled at home
  • Parents with a sense of calm in their relationships with their children
  • Happy homes with open lines of communication
  • Decreases in drug use, violence, and crime among teens
  • Employers with decreased absenteeism due to family strife
  • Increased employee productivity due to workers being fulfilled at home

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Seminar Topics
Topics include...
A Model of Human Performance - A very logical explanation of the role of self-esteem in controlling human behavior. Learn how "The ideas in your head rule your world."

5 Rules for Parents - Learn five simple, practical - but, very powerful - techniques to use daily to get kids to do what you want while feeling good about themselves.

Messages of Love - The surest way to build self-esteem in kids is to let them know they're loved. Learn practical, innovative ways to comfortably tell kids they are loved.

Goal Setting - Do you want kids to realize their dreams? This is the seminar for you. Learn "The Three P's of Goal Setting."

Making Value Choices - Help your kids realize that "acquiring things, money or status is not the only way to judge success." Help your children make critical decisions in their value selection.

Empowering Kids - This is the ideal symposium for both adults and children. Kids learn how to sort the world into areas they can control and those they cannot. Adults learn how to help kids make good decisions.

Roadblocks to Success - Discover about the behaviors that stand in the way of our achieving our goals and maximizing our potential and how to adjust those behaviors.

Why Punishment Doesn't Work - Six reasons why punishment does not bring about meaningful change in kids. Lead children to make good choices on their own.

The Bledsoe Lottery - Aimed at young people, this seminar helps kids realize that in order to get something from life, it is necessary to give something first.

Where to Start - This discussion guides kids to realize, "The best way to get the job I want is to do the very best with the one I already have".

Choices - "How do I pick what I want to be?" This discussion will address very practical, step-by-step ways to help kids answer this important question.

Mac can tailor a workshop or seminar to fit any audience, and often makes multiple presentations including day sessions for students, afternoons for teachers, and evenings for parents.

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Fee Structure
The fee structure for Mac speaking is as follows:
  • Up to 2 hours, $2,000
     

  • Half Day (3-4 hours) is $3,000
     

  • Full Day which includes speaking with students during the school day, teachers and administration in the afternoon and the community at night is $5,000.

Note: Travel expenses are in addition to these appearance fees, but we always try to split costs if we can book additional events in the area during the same week. 

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